Peanut Butter AND Chocolate Brownies: September Means Both

It's Bi Visibility Month!

Those of you who follow me in other places on the internet know I'm bisexual, so you get why I'm excited. It’s all too often that those of us who are bisexual are erased by the gender of our partners—or our lack of one. People assume being bi means that you’re constantly craving the company of two sets of genitals, instead of understanding that it means that we can find our perfect partner amongst people of more than one gender.

The bi pride flag is made of three colors. Blue, pink, and purple. The purple rests solidly in the middle as a visual metaphor for what it’s like to be bi. No matter the gender of the person I may one day choose to spend the rest of my life with, that will never change my sexuality. It’s like being a Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup. Not chocolate, not peanut butter, but BOTH.

So let’s talk about how to make some mouthwatering peanut butter brownies!

Ingredients:
Brownie Batter -
3 oz unsweetened chocolate, roughly chopped
⅓ cup unsalted butter (plus a little greasing the pan)
1 ¼ cups granulated sugar
2 large eggs
1 tsp vanilla extract
¼ tsp coarse sea salt
⅔ cup all-purpose flour
(Store bought is also fine if this sounds like too much work)

Peanut Butter Batter -
¾ cups peanut butter
⅔ cup granulated sugar
1 large egg
¼ tsp vanilla extract
A few pinches of salt

Before you begin, preheat your oven to 350 degrees F. You’ll want to dig out an 8’’ square baking pan as well, and line it with parchment paper and then coat that with nonstick cooking spray or butter.

Once you’re done with that, we can start in on the respective batters. To make the brownie batter, melt the chocolate and butter in a heatproof bowl over a gently simmering pot of water. Turn off the heat when they’re mostly melted, and stir them together until they’re fully melted and smooth. If you don’t have a heatproof bowl, you can melt the chocolate and butter in the microwave using thirty second bursts. Be careful not to microwave for too long, though, because you could burn your chocolate or cause it to separate.

Next, whisk in your sugar. Then your eggs (one at a time). Then your vanilla and salt. After your whisking is done, stir in your flour with a spoon or spatula.

The peanut butter batter is much simpler than the brownie. Just throw all the ingredients in a bowl and whisk/stir until completely combined. I find whisking works best when using smooth peanut butter, but can be tricky when using crunchy.

Once both batters are ready, spread a thin layer of brownie batter across the bottom of the pan. Then toss alternating spoonfuls down in rows to fill the pan. Use a butter knife to swirl the batters together in pretty wavy fashion. This works best for me if I think of drawing figure eights or infinity signs. Now the brownies are ready to go in the oven! Bake for thirty to thirty five minutes, and check with a toothpick to make sure the brownies are cooked all the way through.

There’s a very special book I want to talk about this month. I only just got my hands on a copy a few weeks ago at Rose City Comic Con in Portland, and the artist (Irene Koh) was sweet enough to even autograph it for me.

That’s right, you guessed it. The Legend of Korra: Turf Wars Part 1!

“But what’s so exciting about this book?”, those of you who didn’t guess what I was talking about might ask. What’s exciting about this book is that it’s a fantasy story about a young woman named Korra, who is tasked with keeping her world in balance. She is the Avatar, capable of manipulating all four elements and communing with spirits. And she just happens to be in a relationship with Asami Sato—another woman, who also previously dated Korra’s ex-boyfriend.

That’s right. You heard me. There’s an A-list title out there that features two bisexually behaving women in a relationship with each other THAT ISN’T FOCUSED SOLELY ON THEIR RELATIONSHIP.

That doesn’t mean the relationship between them isn’t a large part of the story, though. And what’s even more exciting about it is how realistically Korra and Asami’s love story is handled. While the previous iteration of The Legend of Korra that ran as a cartoon on Nickelodeon refused to even acknowledge the same-sex relationship Korra and Asami canonically started during the events of the cartoon, the Turf Wars Part 1 gives Korra and Asami room to talk about what it was like when they were still questioning their feelings for each other.

These two pages made me cry because they were so spot on about what it’s like when you first discover you might have feelings for someone of the same sex as you. You’re scared they might push you away, you’re not sure what you’re feeling is real—and yet ultimately you come to the conclusion that you want to take the leap.

The Legend of Korra: Turf Wars Part 1 doesn’t fall prey to the trope of letting Korra and Asami exist as the only queer characters in a non-queer vacuum, either. Almost as soon as Korra and Asami return to Republic City from their vacation, one of the previous Avatar’s children Kya notices their relationship—in part because she’s in a same-sex relationship herself.

The book then goes even further to retcon how same-sex relations were handled by the different cultures in the entire Avatar franchises continuity.

Normalizing same-sex relationships, giving them a place in the historical narrative even when they weren’t accepted… These are new, exciting things for an A-list title to do. Korra and Asami meet with different reactions as they navigate their new relationship. Korra’s parents are worried she and Asami will be mistreated if they don’t keep it private. Due to their reaction, Korra and Asami are nervous about telling their friends, and their mutual ex/friend, Mako. The truth comes out after a battle when Korra rushed to the side of a possibly wounded Asami.

Everyone reacts well, except for Mako. But Mako doesn’t react poorly! What’s exciting about Mako’s reaction is that it hints at further discussion about how friends can support their friends who come out. Sometimes people feel that someone else’s sexual preference reflects on them. In particular, sometimes men who have ex-girlfriends that come out as bisexual or gay will feel emasculated and respond poorly, taking their misplaced hurt out on others. Mako isn’t the sort of character to take those feelings out on Korra and Asami—but he is the sort of character that might be confused about his feelings after hearing that two of his exes got together. Should something come of that and a conversation is had between Mako, Korra, and Asami, it will serve as a positive example for how other people in Mako’s position can respond.

All in all, The Legend of Korra: Turf Wars Part 1 is exactly the sort of representation I’ve been craving all these years. It couldn’t have come at a better time—and we finally got that kiss Nickelodeon refused to give us at the end of Season 4.

Yakiniku: My Beef with Dating Sims

Yakiniku with onions and ribeye has been one of my favorite Japanese style dishes since I was introduced to Japanese cuisine. It’s expensive, so it’s one of those things I only indulge in when I really want a treat—and I recently learned to make it at home.

Ingredients:
½ lb beef ribeye (or you can substitute a different cheaper cut in a pinch)
2 tbs unsalted butter
½ large yellow onion, thinly sliced
1 tbs cooking sake
⅔ cup white wine
1¼ cups water
3 tbs soy sauce
½ teaspoon ginger juice (grate ginger root and then squeeze the pulp to get this)
2 tbs sugar
¼ tsp very finely minced garlic
½ tsp salt
2 cups hot cooked rice

Optional Ingredients:
2 tbs beni shoga (pickled ginger) for serving garnish
2 large eggs to break over your yakiniku beef bowls just before serving

Serves two, so double the recipe if you’ve got four people in your family like I do.

Before you do anything, you’ll want to freeze your beef for an hour. This will make the beef rigid enough to cut into thin slices. Slice the beef very thinly, almost shaving it. In a saucepan over medium heat, melt your butter. Once melted, add your onions and cook until translucent, about four to five minutes.

You may also want to start steaming your rice now, if you haven’t prepared it already. Each cup of rice will become two cups once it hydrates, so one cup of rice will be enough to make the two you need. If you’ve got a rice cooker, you won’t have to pay much attention to this, but if you’re working with a pot like I am, here’s a great way to make sticky rice. If that’s too much work, just cook it normally in a pot and keep the lid on. Once the lid starts to jiggle a little, reduce the heat and let it simmer for about fifteen minutes until the rice is completely cooked through. After that, remove the rice from heat and let sit for another fifteen minutes without removing the lid. Washing and soaking your rice can also make a difference in how sticky your rice turns out, so consider letting it soak overnight or washing it vigorously before cooking it.

Once your onions are done to your satisfaction, add your white wine and cooking sake and let it cook for another two minutes. Next, add the water, soy sauce, ginger juice, sugar, garlic, and salt to the pan and mix well. I find it easier to do if I combine those ingredients in a measuring cup prior to adding them to the saucepan, as it makes it easier to dissolve the sugar in the other liquids and disperse it more evenly throughout the seasoning.

Next add the beef. Stir the mixture constantly to keep pieces of meat from sticking together and keep on heat until the meat is just cooked through. That should take about two to three minutes total.

Divide your rice between the bowls you’ll be serving the yakiniku in, then spoon the beef and onion mixture over the rice. If you feel like it, provide an egg for each person to crack onto their meal and mix with their beef. A garnish of Japanese pickled ginger called beni shoga will add a splash of color and a tasty side treat to the dish as well.

Hopefully you know what kind of media tie-in I’m about to make the leap to. But don’t worry, it’s not what you think. I’m not going to list off all the problems I have with dating sims. Instead, I’m going to talk about the beefiest dating sim of the year: Dream Daddy!

Dream Daddy is a dating sim produced by Youtube famous group The Game Grumps, and is a dating sim where you create a dad and then go forth to date other dads. Although there are definitely some really good dating sims out there in the world, this is the only dating sim that I know of that focuses less on the fan-service and more on the realistic portrayal of people.

Before even entering the game, the player is asked to choose a body type for their character. The game is body positive, offering players three different diverse body types. The game is also inclusive of trans men, mirroring the three available body types, but wearing binders.

After creating your Dadsona and jumping into the game, your first interaction is with your daughter, Amanda. Through your conversation with her, you establish your character’s backstory. Was their previous partner a man or a woman? Was your daughter Amanda adopted or born to you and your partner? The freedom allowed to the player with these dialogue options is momentous for a dating sim.

But the good feelings don’t stop there. In the game, there are six different dads to date. You can date every dad a total of twice before choosing to get serious about one of them—so the game doesn’t ask you to pick a favorite without getting to know them—but what’s exciting about each dad’s storyline is discovering how they go against the stereotypes you assume about them.

For example, let’s take Damien.

Damien is marketed as the goth, Victorian obsessed dad of the game. The achievements you get for going on dates with him are called Interview with a Vampire 1, 2, and 3. But Damien isn’t all that he seems. He’s a man who cares a lot about his clothes and about being able to do the things he likes, but he’s also afraid of horror movies.

He enjoys the gothic pastime of strolling through graveyards because he feels it allows him to celebrate life.

And, if you compliment his clothes on your first date with him, he’ll talk about how important it is to him to be able to pick from a closet of period specific clothing—including binders.

Trans characters are often overlooked in media, so this tidbit of information that confirms Damien as trans while also not making a big deal out of it is a huge victory for the dating sim genre, which is often written off as shallow and there only to provide fan-service.

Damien isn’t the only character in the game doing his part for representation.

Craig, Hugo, and Mat make the cast ethnically diverse, making room for Asian-American, Latinx-American, and Black-American representation.

Mat represents how a person who likes people but has social anxiety acts in social settings.

Hugo represents the intellectuals who also enjoy “base” things like wrestling.

Brian represents how always trying to please someone else can backfire and make them think you’re competing with them instead—leading to an entire debacle over both people thinking the other one hates them. He also is an example of an overweight and active character—counteracting the stereotype that being overweight is a result of laziness rather than genetic disposition.

Joseph represents tolerant religious practice and how to be a cool youth pastor.

But it goes even further than that.

Craig, the dad who seems to be successful at everything he touches, is actually representing what high functioning anxiety looks like.

And Robert, the seemingly unfazeable bad boy of the dad group has some self-destructive tendencies that he doesn’t want to admit to himself. This realization is very difficult to get to, however, as if the player sleeps with Robert either of the times Robert tries to avoid the subject, he will discard the player as someone who is only interested in him superficially and can’t be trusted.

It’s worth noting that all of the dads have different familial make ups as well. Some have lost their past spouses like Dadsona has. Others have separated from their partners amicably. Others never had a partner to begin with, and still others may still be involved with their crumbling marriages.

What I’m trying to say, is this is a wonderful story in which you act as a real father figure to your remarkable photography major of a daughter, and also meet some other remarkable fathers along the way. Go play Dream Daddy and let it wash away your beefs with dating sims.

Ceviche: IT'S PRIDE MONTH!!

It’s June. To me, this means two things: A) we’re finally getting some sunshine in Oregon, and B) it’s Pride Month!! And not just any Pride Month, either. If you haven’t heard about President Obama’s proclamation, go read it here. During last year’s Pride Month I was studying in Akita, Japan. I remember the Supreme Court’s decision regarding marriage equality passing while I was over there and being affected more than I thought I was going to be. As a bisexual woman, I wasn’t feeling the heat of not being able to marry a partner I loved yet. Knowing that I could left me more than a little breathless.

That was before this blog, so this year, we’re going to celebrate!

I chose ceviche for our recipe because not only is it a very attractive food with lots of different colors—almost rainbow-esque, some might say—but it’s the perfect sort of thing to serve at a great big, outdoor, summer gathering! Perhaps for your very own pride party, eh?

Ingredients: (it goes without saying all of these should be fresh)
1 small rock fish fillet
1 pound shrimp
5 limes
1 lemon
½ - ¾ tomato juice
1 large sweet onion
1 cucumber
1 tomato
1 avocado
3 jalapeño peppers
1 bunch radishes
2 cloves freshly minced garlic
¼ cup chopped cilantro
1 teaspoon salt
Tortilla chips (not actually included in the ceviche, but a handy tool for eating it!)

First, peel and devein your shrimp. Give them a rough chop if you like. Then, throw your shrimp and your fish into a bowl and juice your lemon and limes over them. Be sure that the seafood is completely covered in the juice. The idea behind ceviche is to cook the seafood with citric acid. If the seafood isn’t completely submerged, it won’t cook correctly. Cover your bowl and place it in the fridge for 30 minutes to cook. The shrimp should be opaque and slightly firm at the end. If at the end of 30 minutes you’re still concerned your seafood might be raw, throw it in a pan for a very short amount of time.

While the shrimp and fish are cooking, you’ll want to dice and combine your onion, fresh tomato, cucumber, avocado, and radishes. Toss in your tomato juice too. Once combined, toss and mix in the garlic, cilantro, and jalapeños to reach the desired level of spice. Be aware that your jalapeños will become stronger the longer they sit in the mixture, so if you plan to let your ceviche sit for a while you may want to hold off. I like my food spicy, so I mixed them all in and enjoyed the flavor.

Once your seafood is cooked and your other ingredients mixed, combine the two bowls together. You can leave the lemon and lime juice in if you like and even throw in some more tomato juice to play with the consistency of the ceviche.  Or you can strain most of it out if you prefer less liquid in your ceviche. Yvonne (yes, the same chef who made my birthday cheesecakes) and I left most of the citrus juice in. It was great day-of, but I would recommend straining it out before eating it again if you store it. I would also recommend eating this at room temperature. I found that if the mixture was too cold I couldn’t taste all of the ingredients as well.

Now, how does this relate to Pride Month, you ask? Aside from the beautiful coloration and apt weather conditions, I picked this dish because it takes time. More than anything, whenever I’ve seen media that wasn’t pitched as LGBT+ from the beginning, the media takes time to introduce the queer elements of their characters.

There are two bits of media I’d like to talk about in that respect, the first of which being Avatar: The Legend of Korra. The series is four seasons long, and in the first three seasons both Korra and her fourth season love interest Asami are presented as heterosexual women. They even date the same male firebender, Mako. Even in the first season, however, Asami and Korra are hardly rivals or unfriendly just because they’re interested in the same young man. Very early on in Asami and Mako’s relationship, before Korra has anything more to do with him than a crush, Asami takes Korra for a drive. This may seem fairly mundane—until you realize that Asami is the heir to a multi-million yuan (the Avatar universe version of currency) technological company. Aside from being a skilled mechanic, Asami is versed in the operation of all her company-to-be’s equipment. As the only non-elemental bender of the group, this is how Asami keeps up with her bender friends in the main story. So when Asami takes Korra for a drive, it’s one hell of a whirlwind, stunt driving scenario, and the two end up friends before the end of Asami’s introductory episode.

It’s unclear if series creators Bryan Konietzko and Michael Dante DeMartino meant for Korra and Asami to be romantically involved from the beginning, but regardless of original intent, it was refreshing to see two women interested in the same man not detesting each other over that. There’s an unhealthy trope I see a lot—both in real life and in media—of women viewing other women as competition when it comes to romantic inclinations. Korra and Asami’s avoidance of the trope seems rather apt now, since they become each other’s romantic interest in season four, but the initial avoidance of the trope was one of the things that kept me watching and clued into the fact that The Legend of Korra was going to be as good as its prequel series Avatar: The Last Airbender.

That said, it did take four seasons for Korra and Asami to end up together, and—due to Nickelodeon's archaic views on LGBT+ content—was fairly subtle. At the end of season three, Korra suffers a horrible injury that inhibits her abilities as the Avatar, wielder of all four elements and bridge between the human world and spirit world. She withdraws to her Water Tribe home in the south and corresponds with almost no one. Her only penpal? Asami. And just look at the amount of letters she’s written to Korra!

Korra recovers to an extent by the beginning of season four, but due to the conflicts of the story, Korra and Asami hardly have a moment together that isn’t fraught with plot-relevant tension. At the end of the season, a different, heterosexual couple gets married. Korra and Asami both attend the wedding, and slip off together. There, they have a conversation.

This type of conversation is one that I see many same-sex couples have. It’s one where viewers who do not expect to see a conversation between lovers see only a platonic bond, and viewers who expect to see romance, do. The two are emotional, affectionate, and physically touch each other. They agree to go on a trip together to the spirit realm. Just before entering the portal, they hold hands, turn to each other, and gaze into each other’s eyes with content smiles—mirroring the wedding pose from earlier in the episode.

Konietzko and DeMartino both verified that these choices were intentional and that even though they hadn’t been allowed to include a kiss between Korra and Asami—despite the overwhelming amount of heterosexual kisses in the show—Asami and Korra were indeed canonically in a relationship.

Dark Horse Comics has the rights for The Legend of Korra comics, and we all know the independent Northwest comics company has no issues with including diverse characters! I’m looking forward to seeing Asami and Korra’s relationship develop in the comics, and until that time, we have official art from Konietzko to tide us over.

The second piece of media I want to talk about is, once again, Undertale. Seriously, if you haven’t played it yet, even if you think you’re not a gamer, get yourself a Steam account and buy this baby. If you need convincing or background, check out my first two blog posts about Undertale here and here.

I attribute Undertale’s development as an indie game to be the reason that this game does so many things right. Korra and Asami were stunted due to some pretty unfair corporate calls, but Undertale creator Toby Fox didn’t have to adhere to anyone’s call except his. Due to his creative freedom and the support of his team and backers, Fox was able to include not just one but two same-sex couples in Undertale.

The first is stumbled upon in the course of the main storyline of all Neutral and Pacifist runs of the game. I believe in a Genocide run of the game, they have already fled before you arrive. The couple is a pair of guards tasked with evacuating an area due to a human wearing a striped shirt. They mistake you for a monster and try to escort you out of the area before realizing you’re the human they’re looking for and engaging you in combat.

The thing about combat in Undertale is that you really don’t want to kill anyone—which immediately puts using the “Fight” option in battle out of the question. Instead, you have to “Act.” Actions vary immensely from battle to battle, and if you don’t choose the correct actions from your action menu, the consequences can be severe. The best option is often to “Check” each monster and see what their description says. Often this can help lead to the correct course of action, especially when one is at a loss for what to do. Watch what you have to do in order to win the battle with the Royal Guards.

Think back to Korra and Asami’s fourth season conversation that could be read as platonic by viewers who weren’t expecting to listen to a conversation between lovers. This particular fight, I hear, has given some people a lot of trouble because they simply didn’t know what to do with it—because they weren’t expecting it to be a love confession between two male guards!

What’s important about this initial exposure to a same-sex relationship is that it changes the player’s expectations about situations, characters, and tropes in the game. While the player may have previously only been assuming that characters in the realm of Undertale were heterosexual, either due to the massive brainwashing of our media and culture or through some personal sense of bigotry. Now, they are either expecting to see more diversity amongst the characters or have quit playing in childish outrage.

This lays the stage for the main same-sex couple from Undertale: Undyne and Alphys. There are hints that Undyne and Alphys are interested in each other that the player can see during a Neutral or Pacifist run. The first is during their friendship encounter at Undyne’s house when Undyne is trying to civilly offer the player a drink without acting on her urge to immediately hunt any humans that enter the underground. The options you are given are sugar, soda, hot chocolate, and golden flower tea (obviously the correct option). Undyne won’t give the player anything but tea. However, her reaction when the player selects the soda is noteworthy.

If the player has been to Alphys’s lab, they know that Alphys has a penchant for junk food and soda. However, when I did my first run of Undertale, I completely missed this small hint to Undyne’s affections for Alphys BECAUSE I WASN’T EXPECTING IT!

The game gives you another chance to catch on, though. When taking Mettaton’s quiz in Alphys’s lab, his last question is “Who does Doctor Alphys have a crush on?” Being the hubristic thing I am, I went with option C) The Human. Here’s the thing, though: all of the answers are right! While Mettaton will accept The Human and Don’t Know as answers, because Alphys is obviously very interested in humans and the grand concept of someone unknown in an alternate universe where Alphys has found romantic attachment is completely possible (according to Doctor Alphys’s research). Of course, the best reactions come from options A and B, Undyne and Asgore respectively.

While these two moments in the Neutral and Pacifist runs are there, they can easily be missed. For example, not reading into Undyne’s blush and selecting one of the other three answers to Mettaton’s final quiz question would keep the player from ever noticing any of this! Fortunately, in the true Pacifist ending to the game, the player sees Alphys and Undyne confess their love to each other, and they receive a real happily ever after.

If you want to see the whole adorable story of how that happened, I suggest you hustle over to Steam and get to playing Undertale, my friend. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.

Happy Pride Month, everybody!